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Black Dating And Bank Holiday Dating Dilemmas

Do you consider yourself fairly unlucky in the black dating scene – and are you worrying about the approaching bank holiday weekend?

It is widely believed by psychologists that depression increases during the holidays. I can imagine that it is relatively easy to fall prey to the glum that the holiday brings if you have nobody to share it with. Sure, you may have your family with you. However, nothing rivals the closeness and intimacy that only a special partner can bring to your life.

Given that the bank holiday is this weekend, it would be nice to be aware of the black dating dilemmas many singletons face. But do not worry, for every problem, there are ways on how to deal with the particular malady.

Black Dating Dilemma 1: You notice that every holiday deed seems to drag compared to the previous year when you had a steady date to share your cheer with.

True, it hurts to dwell on memories of a past love. The bank holiday atmosphere only magnifies every feeling. We all know that holiday cheer means being with your special someone, spending time with family, and reconnecting with people who matter. But being single should not drag you down. Rather, lift your chin up high and concentrate on being with close friends. Remember, when you were dating you deprived yourself of spending time with your drinking buddies and teatime friends. So bring out your telephone directory and start organizing a reunion! Brace yourself for a jolly good time!

Black Dating Dilemma 2: Family and relatives constantly ask who you are currently dating.

This dreaded question seems as if they were dabbing salt on your wounds. The best thing to do in this type of situation is to come up with a template answer. Prior to going to the family gatherings, compose a believable answer. So when your Uncle Charles starts asking who your girlfriend is now, you can retort by saying: “I am single now because I am focusing my efforts on being active in Amnesty International.” Try to think somewhere along this line. The idea is to have your relatives think that a relationship is not part of your current agenda, as you have more important priorities in life. This way you won’t start sounding like a loser.

The holidays can sometimes be a drag, but with the right outlook and with proper planning, even a non-dating individual can still manage to sneak in some fun and survive. So go out there and have fun!

MMNBlack Member Of The Week

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Meet the gorgeous Chantel from Essex.

Chantel is 34 years old will shoulder length hair ,she is slim and  5′ 5” tall.

I am a genuine woman who would love to meet a genuine man. I work full time in London and own my home and car.I like to go, fine dining, nice bars as well as chilling at home.

I like to stay fit and run at least 5 days per week.Please excuse the photos, I look much better when I have made an effort (hate my webcam,haha).

The First Black Date ……Then What?

Avid readers of black dating advice columns will probably be so sick of “First Black Date Dos and Don’ts”. Things such as what to do, where to go, proper etiquette, and so on.

But what about after the date? Is there proper “behaviour” as well? These are just some frequently asked questions by “regulars” of the black dating scene.

Actually, there are indeed some “post-first date don’ts”. You know, things one should avoid once the date is over. For simplicity, we have decided to divide these into “for the gents” and “for the ladies”.

As always, ladies first:

  1. Don’t be too easy. So okay, you like the bloke. Hold on a minute. Men like a little mystery. Give him just that. If he starts “getting intimate”, slow him down. Not because you don’t like him. But because you want to keep him. You must of course, make this clear—that you don’t want to rush.
  1. Don’t offer to foot the bill: Let him feel he’s in control. Men like it when they are “in charge”

 

  1. Don’t stop him when he offers to call you a taxi: So you like taking the train. If he insists on calling you a cab however, let him. This makes him feel more secure about simply letting you off on your own.

 

  1. Don’t announce your “success” just yet: It sure is tempting to let all your friends know how wonderful your black date went, right? Don’t do so just yet. Wait and see how things will turn out.

 

  1. Don’t fret if he doesn’t call at once. So he said he’d call. But hasn’t just yet. Give him time. He may be quite hesitant and shy as well. Give him the benefit of the doubt.

 

And for the blokes:

  1. If you don’t like her, don’t sugar coat it. Don’t go and tell her stuff like “you’re nice”. This is simply another way of telling her she’s not your type. And women know this all too well.

 

  1. Don’t tell her that she reminds you of dear old Mum. Nothing is worse for a woman. It’s got “pressure” written all over it.

 

  1. Don’t give her “the tongue”. You may want to give her a goodnight kiss. But make it a simple kiss. No funny stuff. Be a gentleman, ok chap!

 

  1. Never ever say “I’ll call you tomorrow” if you don’t intend to do so. In fact, don’t tell her when you’re going to call. Don’t even ask for her number if you have no intentions of getting to know her better—which includes calling her up. This won’t win you any “brownie points” my friend.

 

So there you have it, ladies and gentlemen. Some things you may wish to keep in mind after the first date. These could spell the difference between a second date and having nothing at all. Happy black dating!

 

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Introducing Juanita

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I’m a fun loving and down to earth lady. I have an edgy sense of humour and need someone who can make me laugh. I’m known to be very cheeky, so someone who can handle/match that is attractive. I can be very serious when necessary and can be very strong willed.
I love to bake and luckily for me my love of baked treats doesn’t reflect on my hips too much – slim with curves…
I do have relatively high standards but definitely not high maintenance. I just like quality in all aspects of my life.
Are you a match?

Endlessly looking for your black love?

We are all looking for black love. As singletons, we all long for that special person to share our lives with. For someone we can love and who will love us in return.
There are however, some people who are endlessly looking for love. People who, despite having found someone to be with, are still searching. And at the rate they’re going, will most probably never stop. It isn’t because they haven’t found the “right person”. Rather, they are “addicted” to the feeling of being in love. You know, the tingling sensation, the rush, one gets when they see their love for the first few times. Or when the relationship is new. They are constantly searching for that feeling. And nothing more.

So how will one know if he or she is dating such a person? Or worse, is one of them?

  1. Someone who thinks that love is a romance novel. Cultural influences have affected the way we date. Movies, books, and so on have made us all a little romantic. That’s all fine and dandy. Fantastic even. Up to a certain point, that is. Some people however tend to mistake this feeling for love. They think that if that if the feeling is not there, it isn‘t love. The sad reality is that monotony and the demands of daily life can indeed cause this feeling to take a back seat. It doesn’t mean however that we’re not in love anymore. It just means we’re living in the real world. Sharing ups and downs. Or at least that’s how it is really supposed to be.
  2. Speaking of reality, the person usually tends to live the relationship in a “dramatic manner”. Full of tears, where pain seems to take center stage. Not that life is full of tears. Sometimes though, they will make something up just to add some spice.
  3. The person is constantly looking for the “ideal” mate. Someone who is perfect. Or who will see them as being perfect. The problem is that they will never find such a person. Nobody is perfect, remember?
  4. They are empty and need to “fill” their emptiness with someone. And normally, falling in love is their way of filling this emptiness. They look at their partners as being their “world”. This drives them to become selfish and want him/her to adore them. And only them.
  5. When things get boring, they get going. Whether we like it or not, every relationship tends to have a “lull”. A phase where we get so comfortable that it just becomes a routine thing. This is when such people tend to look around. Remember that they are looking for that feeling of “being in love”. And they don’t realise that they can easily find it with their partner. If only they try and rekindle the flames of romance.

So don’t be a victim. Better yet, don’t be one yourself. We are all looking for love. And when we do find, it, let’s treasure it.

Spring Clean Your Love Life

The clutter in your home environment affects your love life, especially when looking for love. Yes, that’s right. Studies have shown that your home environment can indeed affect other areas in your life, including romance, so spring clean your home and get ahead start with black dating.
While this may seem like some feng shui study (which it partly is), it does have a point. Think about it. Looking for love means searching for someone new to come into your life. But how can this person enter into your life if they can’t seem to find the “front door”, in a manner of speaking. They say a person’s home is a reflection of how they live their life outside. By the same token, a person’s home is actually a big part of who they are.

So before you venture into looking for love, you may want to try and fix up the following areas:

  • The front door: As mentioned earlier, this is where people would naturally enter. Although it was meant in a figurative manner, it can likewise apply in the literal sense. Having all sorts off clutter near the front door can cause one to trip over them upon entering a house or apartment, for instance. The same goes for your life – and your heart. You may have some “clutter” lying around your life such as some old girlfriend’s memory, some past hurts, and so on. Clean these up lest they cause the new lady in your life to trip over it. It may just be the reason for her not to enter at all. She will simply find it too hard. Or even painful.
  • The living room: This is where we normally entertain guests. Magazines, books, newspapers and other things lying around cause the room to look messy. These are a reflection of a person who is too lazy to even pick up his junk. When it comes to looking for love, this may mean someone who is likewise lazy to go the extra mile. Like checking spelling on a contact message sent to a potential match they saw online. Or make that date feel at ease.
  • The bedroom: Many people consider the bedroom as their very own private sanctuary. Where they can simply be themselves without fear of being ridiculed. This may likewise be a place where one’s deepest, darkest secrets are hidden. While we all have secrets, some of these may be quite “destructive”, preventing us from leading a “healthy” love life. Having past hurts that are too hard to handle may cause problems in your relationships later on. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to get some professional help. Someone who can help you get rid of these awful memories that are bringing you down.

You deserve the best, especially when looking for love on a black dating site. Before you can get the best however, you need to be at your best as well. So clean up whatever clutter there is in your home and in your life. Good luck!

Happy Easter from your favourite Black Dating Site

The team at MatchMeNowBlack , your favourite black dating site would liken to wish you a very happy Easter.

Spring is around the corner, (hopefully the weather will improve soon!) and our thoughts turn to love. If you are single bank holidays can be a difficult time particularly when it’s this cold and wet outside. Do you dream of being cuddled up in front of a good film with your hearts desire? Well instead of feeling low and eating one to many Easter eggs, why not take the plunge and start black dating today.

Its totally free to up load your profile and there are plenty of tips and helpful hints on the blog to make sure you create a black dating profile which truly does you justice.

Make Spring 2013 the time you took control of your love life. Use your time this bank holiday to take positive action and join a black dating site today.

Happy Easter.

 

 

 

 

Black Dating – Flirt your intentions

So you’re seriously considering dating this gorgeous black woman. And you really find her attractive. The problem is that you don’t really know how to go about telling her your intentions. You haven’t known her that long and you don’t really know how she feels about you.
Not to worry. You needn’t worry about opening up and being rejected. Here are some black dating techniques you can try.

 

  • Tell her straight up that she is beautiful. A sincere compliment is all that it takes really. Oh, and you may want to go beyond looks. Remember that there is more to a person than facial features or a fabulous body. You may want to compliment her on how wonderful a person she is. Or how fantastic a cook she is. Although you don’t know her that well, chances are she isn’t a perfect stranger. There’s got to be something you know about her, refresh your memory and reread her black dating profile.. Use this knowledge to your advantage.

 

  • Don’t come off sounding like some cheap flirt. While you may want to flirt a bit, don’t overdo it. Remember that a sincere compliment is what’s desired. Not some “cheap pick up line” sort of compliment. Watch your language and avoid the “cool stuff “ altogether.

 

  • While we’re on the subject of flirting, a lot of men end up in flirting disasters all because they’re too tense. They get so nervous that they end up saying the wrong things. Or doing a right approach albeit in a blundered manner. Relax. Don’t fold under the pressure. Stop focusing on the negative “what ifs”. Chances are, they may not happen. And staying calm helps ensure this. The worst that can happen is she rejects you. Then take this as a sign to move on and consider taking another look at the black date on the black dating site. New black dates are signing up everyday.

 

  • Flirting isn’t exclusive to men. A woman who has a “thing” for you would also use flirting in order to get your attention. In fact, most women who don’t want to make the first move will be more subtle about telling a man that they like him. The eyes, the body language and even the spoken language itself. Learn the signals and use them to your advantage.

 

  • Know yourself and let it shine through. Know your good qualities, your interests and so on. If for instance, you like to make people laugh, do this while you’re with her. Or if you have a soft spot for animals. This comes in handy if she has a pet. The point is to be yourself.

 

Remember that black dating and courting a woman isn’t about “being smooth”. It is simply being yourself and knowing how to approach your black date in a sincere way. Do this and you’ll win her heart in no time.

Black Dating – Are looks everything?

A lot of women in the black dating scene think that looks are everything. Well, okay, that looks are what attract a man the most. These women are in for an awakening—a pleasant one that is
While it may be true that a person on the black dating site may be attracted initially by someone’s looks, it isn’t the “be all and end all”. Sure, it’s natural since this is what he or she sees first. But it goes beyond shiny hair and pretty eyes. The fact of the matter is that when black dating,  a mature, marriage-minded men want more than a pretty face. They join a black dating site because they want someone whom they can talk to, someone who will take care of them and someone who will be there no matter what just to name a few.

The problem is that most women don’t really see this side of a man. They feel that they have to lose 30 or so pounds, have a whistle-bait figure and have perfect teeth just to get into the black dating scene. Here are a few things to consider when stepping out into the black dating world:

  •  Know yourself and what you have to offer. There are indeed a lot of supermodel types out there who get the men. But these women don’t have anything more to offer than you do. Know what is your best quality and let that shine through. And we’re not simply talking looks here. Come on now. You’ve got a pleasing personality. Or you’ve got the brains. As mentioned earlier, these are what mature men look for. Show the world what they’ll be missing.
  •  Be wary of men who are so bent on a woman’s looks. So he finds you pretty. Great! And he loves you’re hair colour and everything about your figure. No problem then right? Wrong. This bloke is simply out to have a good time. When you start to open your mouth and talk about the news for instance, he suddenly loses interest. What’s worse, when you start to gain a few pounds, he’s out the door quicker than a Ferrari. Beware of such animals and avoid them at all costs lest you end up as another “stunning trophy”.
  • Still don’t believe that looks aren’t everything? Why not see for yourself. Browse through some wedding photos. While you may find a supermodel here and there, there aren’t too many of them. Quite a number of the brides are of the “average type” – the one who would easily get lost in a crowd. But they’re tying the knot. If this doesn’t convince you, we sure don’t know what will.

So remember that black dating isn’t the exclusive enclave of the gorgeous and good-looking. Even ordinary people can easily find a black date. Just be yourself and practise some good old “good grooming” and you’ll be attracting the right black dates in no time.

Black dating photos

Whether you have been using black dating sites for a while, or you’re brand new to the black dating scene, it’s important that you choose the right photo to accompany your black dating profile. It’s a fact that there’s an element of physical attraction in dating – in traditional dating where you might meet someone in a club or the supermarket it’s the physical attraction that comes first – and there’s no reason why it shouldn’t be the same when it comes to black dating online.

Writing a great black dating profile is important, but unless you’re a Booker Prize author, you’re unlikely to be able to give a better description of yourself than a photograph can. That’s why you need to add a photograph to ensure that the people viewing your profile have as much information as possible. Studies show that you are eight times more likely to get a response to your profile if you have attached a photo, and your chances increase with the quality of your photo.

You can tell a lot about a person from the type of photo they include in their black dating profile. If you include a photo of yourself doing something adventurous, like bungee jumping, you are clearly saying something about your personality – similarly if you include a professional studio shot you run the risk of people thinking you are a bit of a narcissist. Go for the safer option – a nice, clear, genuine photo.

It’s important that your picture shows you as you are now. Imagine being in contact with someone whose photograph looked great, only to find out when you meet them that at it’s at least 15 years old! It’s far more important that your photo accurately represents the person you are now.

In the digital age with most phones having great cameras there’s really no excuse for a dodgy shot. Get a friend to help you take a good photograph, remembering that the background is nearly as important as you are. Take a range of natural, smiling shots and then choose the one that you like best. You can upload it directly to your computer and add it to your profile. What’s more, you can change it – if you have your hair cut, or get contact lenses instead of glasses, for example.

Your black dating profile and your photograph are your key marketing tools as far as black dating is concerned. Take the time to get them right and watch those replies flood in!