You’ve been dating this gorgeous black lady for quite some time now. Things seem to be going smoothly between you and your significant other. You go out several times a week and grab every opportunity to be together.
One fine day however, she suddenly drops a bomb on you – she’s leaving, she would rather be back on the black dating scene than with you. Oh dear, you didn’t see this one coming now did you. You sit her down and ask for an explanation. In your most calm demeanour, you ask her what the problem is. She blurts out one rather shocking accusation – you’re not romantic enough! No, it isn’t the be all and end all of your relationship she says. It’s just that she simply doesn’t feel anything from you. Sure, you spend time with her, which she greatly appreciates. It’s just that when you do, it’s like you’re not that involved. She says that it wouldn’t hurt for you to be a bit more romantic at times. A sort of expression of your love, if you will.
What to do then? You can simply ignore her and allow her to leave, arguing that you aren’t the romantic kind of bloke. On the other hand, you can try and change for the better, since she means the world to you and you don’t want to lose her. Moreover, you realise that being romantic may not be such a bad idea after all.
But how does one become romantic, you ask?
Whatever you do to be romantic, just remember one simple thing – do it just because. Don’t be romantic simply because you want her to stay or you want to impress her. Do it because you want to.
|Five top tips for productive Black Dating profiles|
|There’s no shortage of advice for people starting to prepare their black dating profile, or for those whose profiles haven’t yet produced results. At MMNBlack, we have a lot of profile advice, but we’ve condensed the most important advice into these top five tips:|
Before you write and post your profile, check out the competition. The last thing you want is for your headline to be exactly the same as four other people, or for your user name to be too close to others. Spend some time browsing the profiles – look at what catches your interest and what doesn’t. Then use that information to create a profile that will stand out from the crowd.
Clear and concise
Don’t ramble. Remember that the people who read your profile are browsing and they’ll just click away if you don’t grab their attention and tell them what they want to know. Keep it short and sweet, making sure that you’ve included all the relevant information.
Say what you do, not what you’re like
Don’t write a string of words describing your qualities. This isn’t a CV, it’s a personal profile. Make it personal by saying what you actually like to do and how you spend your time. Ditch the jargon, use plain English and say what you mean. Trying to look clever by using long words or complicated descriptions doesn’t get responses.
Keep updating your black dating profile. When you’ve done something new or exciting, say so. This not only widens the audience for your profile, by shows readers that you are still using the site and still interested in hearing from them.
Posting a photo is expected on today’s black dating sites. On some sites, it’s possible to post more than one photo, but whatever the restrictions, make sure that you choose a really good photo. Ideally, it should just be of you on your own, not you with family and friends and if you can, choose a photo that illustrates you doing something you really like. Keep in recent and decent and it can go a long way to improving your chances of some genuine responses.