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Black Dating And Romance Tips For The Unromantic

You’ve been dating this gorgeous black lady for quite some time now. Things seem to be going smoothly between you and your significant other. You go out several times a week and grab every opportunity to be together.

One fine day however, she suddenly drops a bomb on you – she’s leaving, she would rather be back on the black dating scene than with you. Oh dear, you didn’t see this one coming now did you.  You sit her down and ask for an explanation. In your most calm demeanour, you ask her what the problem is. She blurts out one rather shocking accusation – you’re not romantic enough! No, it isn’t the be all and end all of your relationship she says. It’s just that she simply doesn’t feel anything from you. Sure, you spend time with her, which she greatly appreciates. It’s just that when you do, it’s like you’re not that involved. She says that it wouldn’t hurt for you to be a bit more romantic at times. A sort of expression of your love, if you will.

What to do then? You can simply ignore her and allow her to leave, arguing that you aren’t the romantic kind of bloke. On the other hand, you can try and change for the better, since she means the world to you and you don’t want to lose her. Moreover, you realise that being romantic may not be such a bad idea after all.

But how does one become romantic, you ask?

  • So you go out several times a week. Why not go the proverbial extra mile and splurge a little. If you can afford it, why not hire a limo and take her somewhere fancy. Take her out for a romantic night on the town. You can start with a bouquet of her favourite flowers. This can be followed by a candlelit dinner, complete with wine and all the trimmings. You can cap this off with either dancing or a stroll in a secluded yet romantic spot overlooking the city.
  • Send her love texts or a simple note for no reason at all. Just let her know how special she is.
  •  Remember the times you’ve had to answer your mobile phone during dating? Why not switch off your mobile while dating for a change. This will show her that you are giving her your undivided attention.
  • Simply listen to her when she speaks. It may not necessarily be romantic to many people. But listening to someone speak can be quite hard especially in today’s world of utter distraction. Take the time to listen to how her day went, or when she’s trying to tell you about that fabulous dish she had for lunch. Who knows? You might just pick up a few ideas for your next romantic move.

Whatever you do to be romantic, just remember one simple thing – do it just because. Don’t be romantic simply because you want her to stay or you want to impress her. Do it because you want to.

Black Dating And Communication

Black Dating And Communication: A Few Tips For Keeping It Together
Communication is considered one of the most important factors in any relationship, especially dating. Many couples that have survived turbulent times will tell you that open and honest communication is key in keeping their relationship together.
A closer look at many relationships reveals that communication is key even before you start dating. Expressing your feelings for instance, is no easy task. You need to muster enough courage to tell your love your true feelings. It requires a bit of skill and a lot of courage to do so. According to many people however, this is the easy part. To express your feelings only requires your hoping for the best and preparing for the worst. Rejection, although not exactly a pleasant experience, is part of the risk.

The true value of communication when it comes to dating lies in how it can help keep things together. Many couples have broken up because of a lack of communication. So how does communication help keep things together you ask?

– You need to remember that Black dating is essentially a trial phase of being together. While you commit to seeing and loving this one person, it is still the two of you trying to see if you are indeed compatible. This means that you and your significant other will inevitably run into a lot of hurdles along the way. The reality is that any relationship has its own set of trials. The key is telling your partner how you really feel about her reaction to a certain situation, for instance. It is expressing your feelings in the hope of a better relationship ahead. For indeed, how will your mate know how you feel if you don’t tell them.

– Black dating and communication likewise means being open to what your date has to say. Communication is a two-way street. It involves one person speaking and another person listening. You need to keep an open mind (and heart) to whatever they tell you. This essentially means not letting your temper get in the way once you hear something that displeases you, for instance. Over reacting is the surest way to block all communication lines.

– You likewise need to show each other that what each of you has said don’t fall on deaf ears. In other words, do something about the problem. Expressing your feelings is one thing. Taking concrete steps to solve the problem is another.

These are just a few tips to keep in mind when it comes to black dating and communication. Remember to keep all communication lines open. In the end, it will spell the success of your relationship.

Top Tips For Black Dating Profiles

Five top tips for productive Black Dating profiles
There’s no shortage of advice for people starting to prepare their black dating profile, or for those whose profiles haven’t yet produced results. At MMNBlack, we have a lot of profile advice, but we’ve condensed the most important advice into these top five tips:
Research

Before you write and post your profile, check out the competition. The last thing you want is for your headline to be exactly the same as four other people, or for your user name to be too close to others. Spend some time browsing the profiles – look at what catches your interest and what doesn’t. Then use that information to create a profile that will stand out from the crowd.

Clear and concise

Don’t ramble. Remember that the people who read your profile are browsing and they’ll just click away if you don’t grab their attention and tell them what they want to know. Keep it short and sweet, making sure that you’ve included all the relevant information.

Say what you do, not what you’re like

Don’t write a string of words describing your qualities. This isn’t a CV, it’s a personal profile. Make it personal by saying what you actually like to do and how you spend your time. Ditch the jargon, use plain English and say what you mean. Trying to look clever by using long words or complicated descriptions doesn’t get responses.

Update

Keep updating your black dating profile. When you’ve done something new or exciting, say so. This not only widens the audience for your profile, by shows readers that you are still using the site and still interested in hearing from them.

Photographs

Posting a photo is expected on today’s black dating sites. On some sites, it’s possible to post more than one photo, but whatever the restrictions, make sure that you choose a really good photo. Ideally, it should just be of you on your own, not you with family and friends and if you can, choose a photo that illustrates you doing something you really like. Keep in recent and decent and it can go a long way to improving your chances of some genuine responses.